Oh, I do not want to decide anything; I want someone else to do this.
Do I want to? But I also want to find someone who will make decisions for me.
I wanted to lie under a palm tree and drink a cold mojito, and my wallet was full of currency. The more I spend, the more I get. What a thrill!
I also want to yell to my butler, "Jacques, Jacques. Where the hell have you been? I've got friends coming for dinner. Tell the cook to have quails ready by 6:00 and get me a 20-year-old semi-dry red wine. Oh, and have the pool cleaned."
That's what I want, honestly. And I'd find something to keep myself busy. I wouldn't be bored amidst parties, festivities and endless fun. It would be my way of life.
However, there's a catch – dreams and reality are two different things.
It gets interesting when I see a 30+-year-old think this way and choose this strategy for life: not dreams, but STRATEGY.
There are very few people who will do anything you want. It's a stereotype. You are not a child; no one will love you with "unconditional" love.
Do you know what happens in most cases? They will choose their significant other, who will decide for them. That's a very high probability. But doing so, one proudly walks straight into the Karpman Triangle into the Victim position.
There is always a saviour or abuser for every victim; that is the rule. I have never once seen an exception. Though the world tends to act irrationally, it is very logical. A victim will never attract an adult and conscious man; he would not be interested in her.
Is that a bad thing? Not if all participants in this game are comfortable. Can such couples live happily ever after? The relationship will undoubtedly be long, but will this couple be happy?
I want to remind you that life is unpredictable. Nobody knows what will happen tomorrow, in a year, or ten years - the promise is that we'll find out.
People who want everything to be decided for them very quickly lose the skill to live independently. They don't know how to think for themselves, analyse, do something, or create.
When these people have a critical situation, they turn into confused children of 30+, 40+ or 50+ years that never learned how to live.
So, use your mind. It's a beneficial skill.
You want to grow - change does not happen automatically; you must be intentional! That's what we call in Maxwell coaching: The Law on Intentionality.
Do you have a growth plan? If you need help, let me help you out.